Comments on: LitPark Gang Talks Loss http://www.litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/ LitPark Tue, 27 Jul 2010 17:11:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: LaurenBaratz-Logsted http://www.litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2573 LaurenBaratz-Logsted Thu, 22 Mar 2007 23:10:09 +0000 http://litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2573 Nicely done, Aurelio. I did take Mom to lunch yesterday. Nicely done, Aurelio. I did take Mom to lunch yesterday.

]]> By: n.l. belardes http://www.litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2572 n.l. belardes Thu, 22 Mar 2007 20:22:04 +0000 http://litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2572 Susan should wear a toga. And no I am not being mean. Toga's are cool! Susan should wear a toga.

And no I am not being mean. Toga’s are cool!

]]> By: patry http://www.litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2571 patry Thu, 22 Mar 2007 16:36:18 +0000 http://litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2571 Moved, inspired, awed, saddened, connected--just a few of the reactions this post elicited from me. Thank you, Susan, for always asking the best questions, and for creating a place where people feel comfortable enough to reveal their deepest truths. Moved, inspired, awed, saddened, connected–just a few of the reactions this post elicited from me. Thank you, Susan, for always asking
the best questions, and for creating a place where people feel comfortable enough to reveal their deepest truths.

]]> By: Susan Henderson http://www.litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2570 Susan Henderson Thu, 22 Mar 2007 01:13:57 +0000 http://litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2570 I am really fond of all of you. I think that's all I want to say right now. I am really fond of all of you. I think that’s all I want to say right now.

]]> By: Aurelio http://www.litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2569 Aurelio Wed, 21 Mar 2007 23:47:44 +0000 http://litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2569 Putting this together was a great opportunity for me to get to know this group better, and for that I am very grateful. My piece for this post was difficult to write. I don't tend to share such personal things in public, unless it yields something humorous. Wearing my serious hat feels funny. Also, while I was writing about my mom, I couldn't help but think that everyone suffers losses in their life - why are mine any more significant or remarkable? The people we love are quite remarkable though, to each of us, and that is the key. Reading these again today, and everyone else's comments too, makes me believe more than ever that it is good to remember the people we've lost and treasure the things they left us. Putting this together was a great opportunity for me to get to know this group better, and for that I am very grateful.

My piece for this post was difficult to write. I don’t tend to share such personal things in public, unless it yields something humorous. Wearing my serious hat feels funny.

Also, while I was writing about my mom, I couldn’t help but think that everyone suffers losses in their life – why are mine any more significant or remarkable?

The people we love are quite remarkable though, to each of us, and that is the key. Reading these again today, and everyone else’s comments too, makes me believe more than ever that it is good to remember the people we’ve lost and treasure the things they left us.

]]> By: n.l. belardes http://www.litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2568 n.l. belardes Wed, 21 Mar 2007 23:06:23 +0000 http://litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2568 My dad's ashes are scattered in a mountain lookout area where people once gathered to watch atomic explosions. My dad’s ashes are scattered in a mountain lookout area where people once gathered to watch atomic explosions.

]]> By: Betsy http://www.litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2567 Betsy Wed, 21 Mar 2007 21:35:38 +0000 http://litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2567 Oh, boy, I don't know what to add to this, but I too was very moved by everyone's stories, and Jim, I also loved reading 'Flights', that was lovely. Oh, boy, I don’t know what to add to this, but I too was very moved by everyone’s stories, and Jim, I also loved reading ‘Flights’, that was lovely.

]]> By: Robin Slick http://www.litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2566 Robin Slick Wed, 21 Mar 2007 20:47:47 +0000 http://litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2566 Ah, this is all too sad for me. I was part of the initial LitPark email that went around about losing parents out of which today's post arose and I just could not take part in it -- even after all of these years I'm still the walking wounded. Grant, you just made me remember something I'd forgotten. One month before my mom died of cancer, my childhood dog, who naturally loved my mom best, died suddenly even though he was 15 and we should have known/anticipated he wasn't immortal nor long for this world. I seriously think he died of a broken heart from missing my mother. I cried for a week straight after his death yet I was unable to cry at my own mom's funeral three weeks later. I think I was in shock...you just don't expect your mom to die when you are 18...I just thought, okay, she's sick, she's in a twilight sleep most of the time, so this is how it's going to be and I'll deal with it...I'll just visit her at the hospice every day and hope she's awake when I'm there. When I got the phone call, I simply did not believe it, nor did I believe it at the cemetary where I hid behind a tree and popped a Valium offered to me by one of my loony relatives. One thing about losing a parent...it's when you officially become an adult, even if you are still a child. It's the loneliest feeling in the world. Okay, enough of that. Can't wait until Friday's post and the weekly wrap because I know a very cool secret about someone on LitPark and I'm hoping it's revealed... Ah, this is all too sad for me. I was part of the initial LitPark email that went around about losing parents out of which today’s post arose and I just could not take part in it — even after all of these years I’m still the walking wounded.

Grant, you just made me remember something I’d forgotten. One month before my mom died of cancer, my childhood dog, who naturally loved my mom best, died suddenly even though he was 15 and we should have known/anticipated he wasn’t immortal nor long for this world. I seriously think he died of a broken heart from missing my mother. I cried for a week straight after his death yet I was unable to cry at my own mom’s funeral three weeks later. I think I was in shock…you just don’t expect your mom to die when you are 18…I just thought, okay, she’s sick, she’s in a twilight sleep most of the time, so this is how it’s going to be and I’ll deal with it…I’ll just visit her at the hospice every day and hope she’s awake when I’m there. When I got the phone call, I simply did not believe it, nor did I believe it at the cemetary where I hid behind a tree and popped a Valium offered to me by one of my loony relatives.

One thing about losing a parent…it’s when you officially become an adult, even if you are still a child. It’s the loneliest feeling in the world.

Okay, enough of that.

Can’t wait until Friday’s post and the weekly wrap because I know a very cool secret about someone on LitPark and I’m hoping it’s revealed…

]]> By: Grant Bailie http://www.litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2565 Grant Bailie Wed, 21 Mar 2007 20:31:00 +0000 http://litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2565 Something occurs to me looking at that picture of my mum flanked by two dogs. Charlie, the dog on the right, died of the same thing (cancer, like everyone it seems some days). Charlie became my dog after mom died, following me everywhere like he had her. And when he died he died in my arms, like she did not, though it seemed that she should of. I'd like to say too, that reading about all of your respective losses and loved ones, it reminds me of something I often forget--that I am part of something impressive and wonderful. The world, mainly, but a better part of the world it is too easy to forget. The part that is kind and tender. Something occurs to me looking at that picture of my mum flanked by two dogs. Charlie, the dog on the right, died of the same thing (cancer, like everyone it seems some days). Charlie became my dog after mom died, following me everywhere like he had her. And when he died he died in my arms, like she did not, though it seemed that she should of.

I’d like to say too, that reading about all of your respective losses and loved ones, it reminds me of something I often forget–that I am part of something impressive and wonderful. The world, mainly, but a better part of the world it is too easy to forget. The part that is kind and tender.

]]> By: Jordan http://www.litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2564 Jordan Wed, 21 Mar 2007 19:18:56 +0000 http://litpark.com/2007/03/21/litpark-gang-talks-loss/#comment-2564 Wow... I just, it's um You guys are amazing. Loss is pretty much a part of the human condition--but how each of us deals with it continues to amaze me. And if anyone has not yet read Noria's book--DO IT. It is a singular experience. She's amazing--and I'm not just saying that because we once lived in the same town (How's SC, Noria?) J Wow…
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You guys are amazing. Loss is pretty much a part of the human condition–but how each of us deals with it continues to amaze me.

And if anyone has not yet read Noria’s book–DO IT. It is a singular experience. She’s amazing–and I’m not just saying that because we once lived in the same town (How’s SC, Noria?)

J

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